The Obligatory Duties of Parents Toward Their Children
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Question:
I have a son whom I raised to recite the Noble Qur'an until he was eighteen years old. When he grew up, I was unable to discipline him, and he ran away from me. I no longer have any authority over him. What is the solution?
Answer:
You have done what was required of you. If you did this when he was young, struggled with him, and raised him, then you have done a great deal of good. If he ran away from you after growing up and wasted himself, the sin is upon him, not upon you. The sin is upon him. However, as long as he is young, it is obligatory for you to fulfill your duty and teach him.
Among the most important of this is teaching him the Opening of the Book, al-Fatihah, for it is the greatest surah and the best surah in the Book of Allah, the Qur'an. Al-Fatihah is the Mother of the Qur'an; it is the greatest surah and the best surah. Teaching the boy and the girl to recite it so that they become accustomed to reading it contains great good and numerous benefits. It is the Mother of the Qur'an and the greatest surah in the Qur'an.
Likewise, teaching them the short surahs of the Qur'an, the two chapters of protection (al-Mu'awwidhatayn), "Say, He is Allah, the One" (Iqra' Huwa Allahu Ahad), "Say, O you disbelievers" (Qul Ya Ayyuha al-Kafirun), and the short surahs. If the children learn these, there is much good in it until they live by them and practice reading them. Then they benefit from the meanings. Their father, or their mother if she has knowledge, directs them to the great meanings in these short surahs. Through this, they gain great knowledge and a great benefit that will be useful to them when they grow up. Just as parents help their children with what the school directs, the school says to them, "This is cooperation between the fathers and mothers of the children and the school."
The point is: The father and mother must teach him as long as the child is in their custody, under their control, and in their care. If he grows up, leaves their care, and becomes independent, the sin is upon him, not upon them.
I have a son whom I raised to recite the Noble Qur'an until he was eighteen years old. When he grew up, I was unable to discipline him, and he ran away from me. I no longer have any authority over him. What is the solution?
Answer:
You have done what was required of you. If you did this when he was young, struggled with him, and raised him, then you have done a great deal of good. If he ran away from you after growing up and wasted himself, the sin is upon him, not upon you. The sin is upon him. However, as long as he is young, it is obligatory for you to fulfill your duty and teach him.
Among the most important of this is teaching him the Opening of the Book, al-Fatihah, for it is the greatest surah and the best surah in the Book of Allah, the Qur'an. Al-Fatihah is the Mother of the Qur'an; it is the greatest surah and the best surah. Teaching the boy and the girl to recite it so that they become accustomed to reading it contains great good and numerous benefits. It is the Mother of the Qur'an and the greatest surah in the Qur'an.
Likewise, teaching them the short surahs of the Qur'an, the two chapters of protection (al-Mu'awwidhatayn), "Say, He is Allah, the One" (Iqra' Huwa Allahu Ahad), "Say, O you disbelievers" (Qul Ya Ayyuha al-Kafirun), and the short surahs. If the children learn these, there is much good in it until they live by them and practice reading them. Then they benefit from the meanings. Their father, or their mother if she has knowledge, directs them to the great meanings in these short surahs. Through this, they gain great knowledge and a great benefit that will be useful to them when they grow up. Just as parents help their children with what the school directs, the school says to them, "This is cooperation between the fathers and mothers of the children and the school."
The point is: The father and mother must teach him as long as the child is in their custody, under their control, and in their care. If he grows up, leaves their care, and becomes independent, the sin is upon him, not upon them.
Source
binbaz.org.sa
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