Kindness to the Parent, Even If He Has Wronged
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A Woman Adorning Herself After the End of the Waiting Period
Question: Is it permissible for a woman whose waiting period has ended, whether it was a waiting period due to divorce or death, to adorn herself when she is approached with a marriage proposal? And if this is permissible, does it not conflict with what is mentioned in the Noble Qur'an, that a woman does not display her adornment except to her husband or her mahrams?
Answer: It is permissible for a woman, once her waiting period due to divorce or death has ended, to adorn herself with what Allah has made permissible in a good manner,because of His saying, the Exalted: [al-Baqarah: 234] .Meaning: with what is customary, provided there is no fitnah (trial, discord or temptation) in it and no harms. She may adorn herself with kohl, henna, and wearing beautiful clothes. This does not mean that she displays this adornment before men, for it is forbidden for her to display any of her adornment before non-mahram men, whether she has just completed her waiting period or not. It is forbidden for the Muslim woman to appear before men in a way that draws attention to her with the adornment of her body, or the adornment of her clothes. This does not conflict with the saying of Allah the Exalted: [al-Nur: 31] , because the meaning is that she adorns herself in her home and among women. As for her going out to men and displaying her adornment, this is not permissible at all, not for her, nor for any other Muslim woman.
[Kindness to the Parent, Even If He Has Wronged]
Question: A man divorced his wife while she was pregnant with his child. After she gave birth, Allah blessed her with a son, and she raised him and took care of his upbringing and care until he grew up and got married, without his father providing him with any assistance or financial maintenance. Is it obligatory for him to be kind to his father and dutiful to him, even though his father did not take care of him and he did not taste the warmth of fatherhood and his mother's tenderness, or is it not?
Answer: Yes, the right of the parent is obligatory upon the child, even if the parent fell short in his upbringing and financial maintenance of the child. This is because both the parent and the child have rights over each other. If the parent falls short in the child's rights, then he bears the burden and sins for it, but this does not nullify his right over the child. The child must be dutiful to him and treat him with kindness. It is required of the Muslim to treat with kindness the one who has wronged him, even if that person is not his father,Allah the Exalted said: [Fussilat: 34] ,And Allah the Exalted said: [al-Shura: 40] . It is required of the Muslim to respond to wrongdoing with kindness toward people, so how much more so with his father? The matter is more emphatic in this case.
Question: Is it permissible for a woman whose waiting period has ended, whether it was a waiting period due to divorce or death, to adorn herself when she is approached with a marriage proposal? And if this is permissible, does it not conflict with what is mentioned in the Noble Qur'an, that a woman does not display her adornment except to her husband or her mahrams?
Answer: It is permissible for a woman, once her waiting period due to divorce or death has ended, to adorn herself with what Allah has made permissible in a good manner,because of His saying, the Exalted:
then there is no blame upon you for what they do with themselves in an acceptable manner
فَلَا جُنَاحَ عَلَيْكُمْ فِيمَا فَعَلْنَ فِي أَنْفُسِهِنَّ بِالْمَعْرُوفِnot expose their adornment except to their husbands
وَلَا يُبْدِينَ زِينَتَهُنَّ إِلَّا لِبُعُولَتِهِنَّ[Kindness to the Parent, Even If He Has Wronged]
Question: A man divorced his wife while she was pregnant with his child. After she gave birth, Allah blessed her with a son, and she raised him and took care of his upbringing and care until he grew up and got married, without his father providing him with any assistance or financial maintenance. Is it obligatory for him to be kind to his father and dutiful to him, even though his father did not take care of him and he did not taste the warmth of fatherhood and his mother's tenderness, or is it not?
Answer: Yes, the right of the parent is obligatory upon the child, even if the parent fell short in his upbringing and financial maintenance of the child. This is because both the parent and the child have rights over each other. If the parent falls short in the child's rights, then he bears the burden and sins for it, but this does not nullify his right over the child. The child must be dutiful to him and treat him with kindness. It is required of the Muslim to treat with kindness the one who has wronged him, even if that person is not his father,Allah the Exalted said: