A man who does not pray, and his wife asked him to perform Hajj but he refused, so the son intervened and insisted on his father, and he agreed on the condition that the son shave his beard. What is the ruling?

Oh our Shaykh, we have a word or a phenomenon here in Jordan, which increases it, oh our Shaykh, when it is two or five o'clock, he takes them with him, either he adjusts the line, after two at night he waits until when? ... No, from here.

The questioner: This is what happened with his father, of course, our brother Dr. Waleed, his father, of course, does not pray, and of course, he was inclined to many things, like drinking coffee and such.
So the mother asked him to go perform Hajj for his father, so he refused and said, not now. And he, of course, took it upon himself, he cut off the connection with me, of course, and paid the money and everything.

The Shaykh: For his sake?

The questioner: Yes, for his father and his mother, but without his father knowing. On the same night they were to travel, they opened the topic to his father, a week or ten days before, so of course, you want to go, you don't want to go.
They, of course, he says he wants his mother to go with him, and she is now strong, and he says: No, there is no one now, of course, the last thing Dr. Waleed entered, I spent a day talking withThe Shaykh : Abu Malik, he was talking to his father on the telephone because they are from the same country, and he talked to him, but he was not convinced.
Of course, in the end, he talked to him with all methods and such, and because he was a guest, he also did not take it for him.

The Shaykh: Where is the brother residing now?

The questioner: In Algeria now, residing, on the same night of travel and preparing the suitcases, of course, he refused, and they cut off the hope that she would go, they, of course, insisted that she go, but on the condition, one of the conditions.
If you want to go, shave your beard, if you go, your mother shaves the beard, of course, the whole family gathered and their voices... and such, and he was confused, and then, oh our Shaykh, his father wants a final shave, but the whole family gathered and such, they were thinking what to do, so he said: I mean, am I sinful?
So of course, one person indicated, I don't know who mentioned it to me, he said: a middle place, reduce it a little, he carried his situation and said: My affair is to Allah... In the end, of course, he cut from it, and of course, it was reduced from the fist, as you are now, Professor, what is the legal ruling, if now, does he prioritize his mother over himself with the beard, or does he prioritize the beard over his mother? We need an answer to this?

The Shaykh: Did the mother go or not?

The questioner: She went after he shaved it.

The Shaykh: No, he did not shave it, he cut it.

The questioner: Was he in a position where it is permissible to take from it?

The Shaykh: No, absolutely not, the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) says: , this is one thing, there is no obedience to a created being, meaning a righteous one, so what about the created being who is evil and not righteous? Perhaps everyone remembers the sermon of Abu Bakr al-Siddiq when he took over the caliphate.
Among what he said was: "Obey me as long as I obey Allah in you, and if I disobey Him, then there is no obedience for you to me," and this is the best of people in the time of the Messenger after the Messenger, he says: this word, and unfortunately, the translation we heard about the father, it can be said: that he is not to be obeyed in obedience, because this man is difficult to deal with, it is clear, as the doctor says: that arrogance took him in sin, indeed.
Because if you do something that has harm, we do not say in religion, because it seems he does not ask about religion, but there may be harm from the side of health, money, trade, etc., he may have a point of view regarding his materialism and his deviation from his religion, but this matter is neither religion nor worldly life.
So it means the case is a case of stubbornness, and behind it is Satan, and if you had made a call to me, I would have told you, do not obey him at all.

The questioner: Is it valid that the mother performs Hajj?

The Shaykh: No, you are not responsible for the mother except within the limits of ability, because as Allah the Exalted said: .
So you do your duty for yourself before anything else, then the second duty moves from you to your mother, but the truth is, you have no authority over the mother, and you have no authority over this father, who is not committed, you have only advice and reminding.
And this is from the great manners of the Qur'an, which, unfortunately, people have turned to two extremes, so some children obey their parents with blind obedience, they do not adorn this obedience with the Shari'ah, whether it agrees or disagrees, it is not their concern.
Now, a rising generation is committed, with extremism, they do not do it with their father, and they scold their mother, because of what? Because they do not let him walk in his religion.
So they pressure him, as happened with, completely, this boy goes crazy on the other side, and the manners with the parents decrease, and this is contrary to the saying of the Exalted: .
Then our Lord, Mighty and Majestic, narrated the story of Ibrahim and his polytheist father, every advice he offered him, he said: Oh my father, oh my father, oh my father, [Maryam: 45].
So he is a polytheist, and this is a monotheist, yet look at the humility and submission with this polytheist, because he is his father.
Now, the youth are between excess and negligence, as for the middle limit, no, so the point is, the father is not to be obeyed in disobedience to the Creator, absolutely, the mother, you are responsible for her by her text, who is directly responsible for her? Her husband, who is your father.
Her husband, as we know now, unfortunately, his religion is not his concern, even to the extent that his wife's religion is his concern, but do you want to remain firm on your principle? And praise be to Allah, the mother performed Hajj now, and the obligation was dropped from her, even if by a mistake that came from you, perhaps Allah, Mighty and Majestic, forgives it because of the family circumstances that you narrated.

The questioner: ...We still excuse him, we did not say about his mother, there is no room for her sake?

The Shaykh: For the mother's sake?

The questioner: If you say: No, meaning in the end.

The Shaykh: No, the research remains, as they say today: not having a subject, since you and your mother performed Hajj, the research is over, meaning there is no longer a need to manage it, if such a thing happens, what will happen.