I suffer greatly from the poor treatment of my husband’s father toward me; I treat him well, but he treats me badly, using foul language and fabricating things I never said, and

The questioner : The questioner, R.S.R. from Taif, says in this question that she is a woman who suffers greatly from the poor treatment of her husband’s father toward her. She says, “I treat him well, but he treats me badly, using foul language and fabricating things I never said. The same is true of his son, who is my husband; he is harsh in speech, sharp-tongued, and frequently curses and insults.”

The Shaykh : There is no power and no strength except with Allah.

The questioner : And he raises his voice for a reason and without a reason. So what do you advise me to do, O honorable Shaykh? Should I prevent my husband’s father from entering my home, meaning should I ask for a separate house for myself? Please note that my husband has another wife, and she mentions that he is the only son of this man, who is ninety years old. Please give us a ruling, and may Allah reward you.

The Shaykh : What I see is that she should be patient and seek reward from her Lord, Mighty and Majestic, and that she should meet evil with good. For Allah the Exalted said in His Book: Allah Mighty and Majestic says: and He did not say “repel evil with good.” He said: If this happens and a person obeys the command of his Lord, enmity turns into friendship and kinship, as if he were a close relative with strong friendship. And the One who said this is the Lord of the worlds, in Whose hand are the reins of affairs, and there is no heart among the hearts of the children of Adam but that it is between two of His fingers. Do not be surprised that enmity turns into friendship and that hatred turns into love, for the One who said this is Allah, the Lord of the worlds. So I advise this woman, who described herself as she did, and who is truly in a miserable state, to be patient, to seek reward, and to wait for relief. And let her know that she is not the only one who experiences such things; many women complain about their husbands, their husbands’ fathers, and their husbands’ mothers. But with patience and certainty, Allah makes matters easy. So my advice to her is to be patient and seek reward.
As for my advice to her husband and his father, it is that they should fear Allah Mighty and Majestic regarding this miserable woman, if what she mentioned in her question is the reality. They should fear Allah Mighty and Majestic, and their hearts should be broader than her heart, and they should not hold her accountable for everything that comes from her, if anything comes from her. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: meaning he does not dislike and hate. And he (peace and blessings be upon him) said: .
So my advice to this husband and his father is to fear Allah regarding this woman, and to meet her evil, if she does evil, with good. And Allah the Exalted is with the patient. Yes.

The questioner : May Allah reward you with good, O honorable Shaykh.