Her husband is committed, and if the wife commits a minor mistake, he curses her and her family and invokes evil upon her and her children
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The questioner : Among their questions, the questioner says: Her husband is committed, and if the wife commits a minor mistake, he curses her and her family and invokes evil upon her and her children. How should the treatment of the wife be in light of the Book and the Sunnah, O honorable Shaykh?
The Shaykh : We must know that commitment is a person's commitment to the Shari'ah of Allah in dealing with the Creator and dealing with the created. Many people understand commitment to be a person's commitment to obeying Allah, meaning his treatment of his Lord, Mighty and Majestic. This is a deficiency in understanding. If we find a man who is committed in his treatment of Allah, who is careful to maintain the prayers, gives much charity, fasts, and performs Hajj, but he is bad in his treatment of his family, then his commitment is certainly deficient. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said:Sunan Ibn Majah 1977Hasan (Darussalam) So the husband mentioned by this woman is not fully committed, because his cursing her and her family, her father and her mother, for the slightest reason does not indicate commitment in this specific treatment. And He, Glorified and Exalted is He, said in His Book: And the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) advised regarding women, and he said in the sermon of the Farewell Pilgrimage on the Day of 'Arafah, in the largest gathering with him (peace and blessings be upon him and his family): Sahih Muslim 1218a.
My advice to this brother is to fear Allah in his family, in his wife, and in his children, because he is responsible for them. Yes.
The questioner : May Allah reward you.
The Shaykh : We must know that commitment is a person's commitment to the Shari'ah of Allah in dealing with the Creator and dealing with the created. Many people understand commitment to be a person's commitment to obeying Allah, meaning his treatment of his Lord, Mighty and Majestic. This is a deficiency in understanding. If we find a man who is committed in his treatment of Allah, who is careful to maintain the prayers, gives much charity, fasts, and performs Hajj, but he is bad in his treatment of his family, then his commitment is certainly deficient. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said:
The best of you is the one who is best to his wife, and I am the best of you to my wives.
خيركم خيركم لأهله وأنا خيركم لأهليAnd live with them in kindness
وَعاشِروهُنَّ بِالمَعروفِFear Allah concerning women! Verily you have taken them on the security of Allah, and intercourse with them has been made lawful unto you by words of Allah.
اتقوا الله في النساء فإنكم أخذتموهن بأمان الله واستحللتم فروجهن بكلمة اللهMy advice to this brother is to fear Allah in his family, in his wife, and in his children, because he is responsible for them. Yes.
The questioner : May Allah reward you.