A man whose father helped him get married with his money, and after the marriage his father told him that the money was a debt on him, and he wants to go out in the path of Allah, so what should he do?
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The questioner : The questioner says that his father married him off.
The Shaykh : Yes, do not stop.
The questioner : The amount was seventy thousand riyals. After the marriage, he told him that this amount was a debt on him. He said, "I am a student and I do not own anything. Allah has blessed me with jihad, and the brothers need my presence." You mentioned in the book *Al-Sharh al-Mumti' 'ala Zad al-Mustaqni* that jihad becomes an individual obligation for those whom the people of jihad need. So guide us—may Allah reward you.
The Shaykh : Now, I did not understand the question. His father helped him with seventy thousand riyals.
The questioner : Yes.
The Shaykh : And he said that he borrowed it from a person.
The questioner : No, he said this is a debt of the son to the father.
The Shaykh : On the son.
The questioner : He says the people of jihad need him, and he sought guidance from your statement in the commentary that if the people of jihad need him, it becomes obligatory upon him.
The Shaykh : Leave the issue of jihad for now, because there is currently a need for reflection on the issue of jihad, so let it be left. Leave the discussion of it. But this man whose father gave him seventy thousand for marriage: does he have it or not? What appears from his words is that he does not have it. In that case, it is obligatory upon his father to marry him off from his own money, from the father's money. And the seventy thousand is not a debt on the son, because it is obligatory upon the father, if he is wealthy and his son is poor and needs to get married, to marry him off from his free money. Did you understand? And if you wish, I will say: if one wife is not enough for him, let him marry him to a second; if that is not enough, a third; if that is not enough, a fourth; if that is not enough, a fifth.
The student: Okay.
The Shaykh : No, it is not "okay." He buys him concubines, yes. In any case, from here I say: it is obligatory upon wealthy fathers to marry off their poor sons, as an obligation, without any favor or claim, and it is not permissible for them to marry them off from zakah. They must marry them off from their free money as long as they are able.
The questioner : May Allah reward you with good.
The Shaykh : Some ignorant fathers, when their son asks to be married off, say to him, "Do not scratch your back except with your own fingernail." Do you understand this statement?
The student: Yes, indeed.
The Shaykh : And what does it mean? Get up, you don't know? Fine. Who knows the meaning? The meaning is: when a person scratches his back, he scratches it with his back. Does he say to his father, "Come, scratch my back"? Who scratches his back? His fingernail. So it is as if he is saying, "I will not marry you off. Get a job, work, and marry yourself." Yes.
The questioner : May Allah reward you with good.
The Shaykh : Yes, do not stop.
The questioner : The amount was seventy thousand riyals. After the marriage, he told him that this amount was a debt on him. He said, "I am a student and I do not own anything. Allah has blessed me with jihad, and the brothers need my presence." You mentioned in the book *Al-Sharh al-Mumti' 'ala Zad al-Mustaqni* that jihad becomes an individual obligation for those whom the people of jihad need. So guide us—may Allah reward you.
The Shaykh : Now, I did not understand the question. His father helped him with seventy thousand riyals.
The questioner : Yes.
The Shaykh : And he said that he borrowed it from a person.
The questioner : No, he said this is a debt of the son to the father.
The Shaykh : On the son.
The questioner : He says the people of jihad need him, and he sought guidance from your statement in the commentary that if the people of jihad need him, it becomes obligatory upon him.
The Shaykh : Leave the issue of jihad for now, because there is currently a need for reflection on the issue of jihad, so let it be left. Leave the discussion of it. But this man whose father gave him seventy thousand for marriage: does he have it or not? What appears from his words is that he does not have it. In that case, it is obligatory upon his father to marry him off from his own money, from the father's money. And the seventy thousand is not a debt on the son, because it is obligatory upon the father, if he is wealthy and his son is poor and needs to get married, to marry him off from his free money. Did you understand? And if you wish, I will say: if one wife is not enough for him, let him marry him to a second; if that is not enough, a third; if that is not enough, a fourth; if that is not enough, a fifth.
The student: Okay.
The Shaykh : No, it is not "okay." He buys him concubines, yes. In any case, from here I say: it is obligatory upon wealthy fathers to marry off their poor sons, as an obligation, without any favor or claim, and it is not permissible for them to marry them off from zakah. They must marry them off from their free money as long as they are able.
The questioner : May Allah reward you with good.
The Shaykh : Some ignorant fathers, when their son asks to be married off, say to him, "Do not scratch your back except with your own fingernail." Do you understand this statement?
The student: Yes, indeed.
The Shaykh : And what does it mean? Get up, you don't know? Fine. Who knows the meaning? The meaning is: when a person scratches his back, he scratches it with his back. Does he say to his father, "Come, scratch my back"? Who scratches his back? His fingernail. So it is as if he is saying, "I will not marry you off. Get a job, work, and marry yourself." Yes.
The questioner : May Allah reward you with good.