Is it permissible to reject a suitable suitor if he is poor?
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The questioner : Your Eminence, in the story of the woman who came to consult the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) regarding those who had proposed to her, he said: Sahih Muslim 1480a: So, is it permissible to reject a suitor who is trustworthy and religious, but has no wealth?
The Shaykh : Yes, the hadith you referred to is about Fatimah bint Qays. Three men proposed to her: Mu'awiyah, Abu Jahm, and Usamah ibn Zayd. She came to consult the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him), saying, "These men have proposed to me." He advised her, and the advisor is to be trusted; he must clarify the defects and the merits. He said to her:Sahih Muslim 1480a. The one who had no wealth became the Caliph of the Muslims, their leader.
Meaning: He frequently beat women.
, and this is evidence that a woman may reject a suitor if he is poor, but it is better if he is of good character and religion that she marries him. This is the case for men as it is for women. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: Sahih al-Bukhari 5090.
he is a poor man having no property
أما فلان فصعلوك لا مال لهThe Shaykh : Yes, the hadith you referred to is about Fatimah bint Qays. Three men proposed to her: Mu'awiyah, Abu Jahm, and Usamah ibn Zayd. She came to consult the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him), saying, "These men have proposed to me." He advised her, and the advisor is to be trusted; he must clarify the defects and the merits. He said to her:
