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﴿ فَاسْأَلُوا أَهْلَ الذِّكْرِ إِن كُنتُمْ لَا تَعْلَمُونَ ﴾

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Is it permissible to reject a suitable suitor if he is poor?

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The questioner : Your Eminence, in the story of the woman who came to consult the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) regarding those who had proposed to her, he said:
he is a poor man having no property أما فلان فصعلوك لا مال له
Sahih Muslim 1480a
: So, is it permissible to reject a suitor who is trustworthy and religious, but has no wealth?

The Shaykh : Yes, the hadith you referred to is about Fatimah bint Qays. Three men proposed to her: Mu'awiyah, Abu Jahm, and Usamah ibn Zayd. She came to consult the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him), saying, "These men have proposed to me." He advised her, and the advisor is to be trusted; he must clarify the defects and the merits. He said to her:
as for Mu'awiya, he is a poor man having no property أمَّا معاوية فصعلوك لا مال له
Sahih Muslim 1480a
. The one who had no wealth became the Caliph of the Muslims, their leader.
And as for Abu Jahm, he is a beater of women. وأما أبو جهم فضرَّاب للنساء
Meaning: He frequently beat women.
Marry Usamah. She said: So I married Usamah and was pleased with him. فانكَحي أسامة، قالت: فنحكت أسامة فاغتبطت به
, and this is evidence that a woman may reject a suitor if he is poor, but it is better if he is of good character and religion that she marries him. This is the case for men as it is for women. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said:
A woman is married for four things, i.e., her wealth, her family status, her beauty and her religion. So you should marry the religious woman (otherwise) you will be a losers. تنكح المرأة لأربع: لمالها وحسبها وجمالها ودينها فاظفر بذات الدين تربت يداك
Sahih al-Bukhari 5090
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Source alathar.net

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