How to Handle a Wife’s Mistakes Toward Her Husband’s Mother
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Question:
After this, a message was received for the program from Riyadh, sent by a listener who referred to his name by the letters (M) and (T). He says: My wife has committed some actions that were disrespectful to my mother, who was visiting me in the Kingdom. Although my mother is known for her high moral character, and she is constantly kind and affectionate toward everyone, and she has shown my wife a great deal of that kindness since I married her four years ago, to the extent that my sisters envy her for it, my wife responded to this kindness with ill-treatment. She did not respect my mother’s advanced age, nor the fact that she is visiting us, a visit that may not happen again. I ask for guidance on what I should do. Should I divorce my wife? May Allah reward you with good.
Answer:
We advise you to address the matter with kind words and a good manner, and do not rush to divorce. Instead, advise her with kind words, noble character, and good treatment of your mother, as well as your other relatives and guests. She should fear Allah, and she should be mindful of Allah so that she becomes a righteous wife with noble character toward her mother and others. Do not rush to divorce if she is religious, if she is among the people of good and righteousness, do not rush. However, if she has other bad character traits involving sins, then divorcing her is better, if admonition and reminding her do not benefit her. As for this slip-up regarding the mother, address it with kind words, a good manner, and guidance toward good. If the need arises to discipline her with light discipline, there is no harm in that, or by boycotting her; likewise, there is no harm in that. But wherever it is possible to treat the issue without boycotting or disciplining, that is preferable. So you must strive in that, and ask Allah for her guidance, success, and improvement of her condition. This is what is best for you. Yes.
The presenter : May Allah bless you, and may Allah reward you with the best reward.
After this, a message was received for the program from Riyadh, sent by a listener who referred to his name by the letters (M) and (T). He says: My wife has committed some actions that were disrespectful to my mother, who was visiting me in the Kingdom. Although my mother is known for her high moral character, and she is constantly kind and affectionate toward everyone, and she has shown my wife a great deal of that kindness since I married her four years ago, to the extent that my sisters envy her for it, my wife responded to this kindness with ill-treatment. She did not respect my mother’s advanced age, nor the fact that she is visiting us, a visit that may not happen again. I ask for guidance on what I should do. Should I divorce my wife? May Allah reward you with good.
Answer:
We advise you to address the matter with kind words and a good manner, and do not rush to divorce. Instead, advise her with kind words, noble character, and good treatment of your mother, as well as your other relatives and guests. She should fear Allah, and she should be mindful of Allah so that she becomes a righteous wife with noble character toward her mother and others. Do not rush to divorce if she is religious, if she is among the people of good and righteousness, do not rush. However, if she has other bad character traits involving sins, then divorcing her is better, if admonition and reminding her do not benefit her. As for this slip-up regarding the mother, address it with kind words, a good manner, and guidance toward good. If the need arises to discipline her with light discipline, there is no harm in that, or by boycotting her; likewise, there is no harm in that. But wherever it is possible to treat the issue without boycotting or disciplining, that is preferable. So you must strive in that, and ask Allah for her guidance, success, and improvement of her condition. This is what is best for you. Yes.
The presenter : May Allah bless you, and may Allah reward you with the best reward.
Source
binbaz.org.sa
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