How to Deal with a Parent Who Commits Sins
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Question:
Her final question says: If the father makes the forbidden things lawful, such as intoxicants, gambling, and not caring for the family or attending to them, in addition to the fact that he does not work and claims to be ill—Allah knows best—and these actions led the family to cut off ties with him and not respect him, knowing that many of this family perform the prayer, give zakah, and know the limits of Allah, yet this father’s actions cause them, in a moment of anger, to forget the saying of Allah the Exalted: [al-Baqarah:83]. Question: How to deal with this father and treat him in a way that pleases Allah, without contradicting the saying of Allah the Exalted: [al-Baqarah:83], because I mentioned above that the family members are confused about this father? Please inform us, may you be rewarded, may Allah reward you with good.
Answer:
It is obligatory to advise him, to advise him, and to make du'a for him in his absence that Allah guide him and return him to the right path, with gentleness toward him; because Allah (Exalted and Majestic is He) said to the son regarding his disbelieving parents: [Luqman:15]. So He commanded that he treat his parents with kindness, even if they are disbelievers.
So likewise today, if the father is a disbeliever, or has apparent sins, it is not permissible for the son to cut off ties with him, nor to insult him, but he should be gentle with him and treat him with kindness, by making du'a for him, advising him, and making du'a for him in his absence that Allah guide him, and also seeking help in that from some good relatives; perhaps Allah will guide him through their means. He should not cut off ties with him, nor be undutiful to him, but rather be patient and seek reward from Allah until Allah makes a way out and an exit. And if he is in need, he should spend on him.
And the result: and the summary is that he should be gentle with him, and make du'a for him in his absence for guidance, and not insult him, nor cut him off from visiting, nor from dutifulness, but rather be dutiful to him and treat him well, and not be undutiful to him until Allah guides him, or Allah causes him to die, yes.
The presenter : May Allah reward you with good.
Her final question says: If the father makes the forbidden things lawful, such as intoxicants, gambling, and not caring for the family or attending to them, in addition to the fact that he does not work and claims to be ill—Allah knows best—and these actions led the family to cut off ties with him and not respect him, knowing that many of this family perform the prayer, give zakah, and know the limits of Allah, yet this father’s actions cause them, in a moment of anger, to forget the saying of Allah the Exalted:
And to parents, kindness
وَبِالْوَالِدَيْنِ إِحْسَانًاAnd to parents, kindness
وَبِالْوَالِدَيْنِ إِحْسَانًاAnswer:
It is obligatory to advise him, to advise him, and to make du'a for him in his absence that Allah guide him and return him to the right path, with gentleness toward him; because Allah (Exalted and Majestic is He) said to the son regarding his disbelieving parents:
but accompany them in [this] world with appropriate kindness and follow the way of those who turn back to Me
وَصَاحِبْهُمَا فِي الدُّنْيَا مَعْرُوفًا وَاتَّبِعْ سَبِيلَ مَنْ أَنَابَ إِلَيَّSo likewise today, if the father is a disbeliever, or has apparent sins, it is not permissible for the son to cut off ties with him, nor to insult him, but he should be gentle with him and treat him with kindness, by making du'a for him, advising him, and making du'a for him in his absence that Allah guide him, and also seeking help in that from some good relatives; perhaps Allah will guide him through their means. He should not cut off ties with him, nor be undutiful to him, but rather be patient and seek reward from Allah until Allah makes a way out and an exit. And if he is in need, he should spend on him.
And the result: and the summary is that he should be gentle with him, and make du'a for him in his absence for guidance, and not insult him, nor cut him off from visiting, nor from dutifulness, but rather be dutiful to him and treat him well, and not be undutiful to him until Allah guides him, or Allah causes him to die, yes.
The presenter : May Allah reward you with good.
Source
binbaz.org.sa
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