What is the advice regarding the disagreements that occur between a husband and wife?
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Question:
Your Eminence, I am, praise be to Allah, one of the women whom Allah has favored with guidance to His straight path, and He has also blessed me with marriage to a young man who is likewise guided, praise be to Allah. My problem, which I wish to present to you, Your Eminence, is that my husband often gets angry with me for trivial reasons, and sometimes for reasons that warrant anger. As a result of his frequent anger, I could not bear to stay with him, so I left my home and have not returned to this day. However, after I left my husband's home, many of my friends rebuked me and advised me to return, saying: "You are sinful, and the angels curse you until you satisfy your husband." I am now confused: should I concede, go to my home, and bear all the miseries, or should I stay in my parents' home and wait for my divorce papers?
Answer:
What I advise you to do is to return, as long as Allah has guided him to Islam, and he is good, and you are also good, so thank Allah for that. Every person has shortcomings, makes mistakes, and gets angry. There is no husband in this world who is safe from ever getting angry or having any issues. Everyone has deficiencies:Sunan Ibn Majah 4251Hasan (Darussalam).
It is obligatory for you to return to his home, treat him in the best manner, be of good character and bear this matter, and strive to use kind words that remove his anger and lighten it. Strive for kind words, gentleness in speech, seeking the means of his satisfaction, and being diligent in that. And be assured of good and a happy outcome: [Al-Talaq:2], [Al-Talaq:4].
This is my advice to you: return and strive to exert the means that please him and keep him in a good state, in a state of joy, and in good speech. When you do what you can of good, endurance, good conduct, and kind words in response to his harsh words; then the outcome will be for you, if Allah wills, and he will be guided by Allah.
Your Eminence, I am, praise be to Allah, one of the women whom Allah has favored with guidance to His straight path, and He has also blessed me with marriage to a young man who is likewise guided, praise be to Allah. My problem, which I wish to present to you, Your Eminence, is that my husband often gets angry with me for trivial reasons, and sometimes for reasons that warrant anger. As a result of his frequent anger, I could not bear to stay with him, so I left my home and have not returned to this day. However, after I left my husband's home, many of my friends rebuked me and advised me to return, saying: "You are sinful, and the angels curse you until you satisfy your husband." I am now confused: should I concede, go to my home, and bear all the miseries, or should I stay in my parents' home and wait for my divorce papers?
Answer:
What I advise you to do is to return, as long as Allah has guided him to Islam, and he is good, and you are also good, so thank Allah for that. Every person has shortcomings, makes mistakes, and gets angry. There is no husband in this world who is safe from ever getting angry or having any issues. Everyone has deficiencies:
Every son of Adam commits sin
كل بني آدم خطَّاءIt is obligatory for you to return to his home, treat him in the best manner, be of good character and bear this matter, and strive to use kind words that remove his anger and lighten it. Strive for kind words, gentleness in speech, seeking the means of his satisfaction, and being diligent in that. And be assured of good and a happy outcome:
And whoever fears Allah - He will make for him a way out
وَمَنْ يَتَّقِ اللَّهَ يَجْعَلْ لَهُ مَخْرَجًاAnd whoever fears Allah - He will make for him of his matter ease.
وَمَنْ يَتَّقِ اللَّهَ يَجْعَلْ لَهُ مِنْ أَمْرِهِ يُسْرًاThis is my advice to you: return and strive to exert the means that please him and keep him in a good state, in a state of joy, and in good speech. When you do what you can of good, endurance, good conduct, and kind words in response to his harsh words; then the outcome will be for you, if Allah wills, and he will be guided by Allah.
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