Encouraging young women not to delay marriage for the sake of studies
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Question:
A message was received by the program from a listener who says: The student Huda bint Naif bint Abdulaziz, from the general secondary school. Our sister says: I am a student in the general secondary school. I support this program, which is bright with light, knowledge, and understanding. We thank Allah first, and then we thank the honorable scholars and those in charge of this bright, good, and beneficial program. As I said, I am a student in the general secondary school, married, praise be to Allah, and I am eighteen years old. I am very happy with my husband and living a good life.
My older sister is thirty years old and has not married yet because she prioritized her studies over marriage. Her age has grown, and no one wants her because she has passed the age of youth. A young man does not want her, and she does not want old men or those advanced in age. She is now regretful of having neglected her youth. She is now standing with me and whispering in the ear of every student in the college, university, secondary school, proficiency program, or literacy program, saying: Do not leave your studies, but get married while you are studying so that you do not regret it when your youth has passed, O good young women! And do not sit in your parents' houses without husbands. To my friends, classmates, and sisters in all girls' schools in the Kingdom of Saudi Arabia, I send my greetings and salutations. I submit this message to the Grand Shaykh Abdulaziz, may Allah preserve him, so that he may supplement it with what he can. May Allah reward him with good.
Answer:
Yes, I support what the student girl mentioned, and I also support what her sister mentioned. There is no doubt that marriage is a required matter. It is incumbent upon young women, and it is also incumbent upon young men to hasten to it. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said:Mishkat al-Masabih 3080.
Praise be to Allah, your sister, even though she has reached thirty, is still young and still a girl. I ask Allah to make it easy for her to find a righteous, good husband, and to reward her for her intention to seek knowledge and her diligence in seeking knowledge. I give her good news that Allah will make it easy for her to find among righteous men and good young men what will bring her good in this world and the Hereafter, if Allah wills.
However, I advise all young women to hasten to marriage. This does not prevent them from being in school. There is no harm in combining studies with marriage. Even if we assume that the husband does not want her to continue her studies, she can stop her studies, praise be to Allah. What she has gained of knowledge is sufficient for her. She is able to study and read in books of knowledge and benefit from them.
As for delaying marriage until the completion of university studies, this may lead to abandoning marriage and not getting married. So I advise all young women to hasten to marriage and not to delay it until the end of university studies, but rather to hasten. If it is facilitated for them to complete their studies with their husband, praise be to Allah. Otherwise, marriage takes precedence, even if she does not complete her studies. She can then read, benefit, and study. Perhaps she will get a righteous husband who is a university graduate or has a degree above university, and he will benefit her and be useful to her, and he will compensate for what was lacking.
So I repeat and repeat: I call upon young women to hasten to marriage. Likewise, I call upon young men to hasten to marriage, and not to postpone it until the end of university studies. For a person does not know how much of his life remains, nor does he know what will happen after that. So haste, haste to marriage is what is required.
The presenter: May Allah reward you with good, and benefit us through you.
A message was received by the program from a listener who says: The student Huda bint Naif bint Abdulaziz, from the general secondary school. Our sister says: I am a student in the general secondary school. I support this program, which is bright with light, knowledge, and understanding. We thank Allah first, and then we thank the honorable scholars and those in charge of this bright, good, and beneficial program. As I said, I am a student in the general secondary school, married, praise be to Allah, and I am eighteen years old. I am very happy with my husband and living a good life.
My older sister is thirty years old and has not married yet because she prioritized her studies over marriage. Her age has grown, and no one wants her because she has passed the age of youth. A young man does not want her, and she does not want old men or those advanced in age. She is now regretful of having neglected her youth. She is now standing with me and whispering in the ear of every student in the college, university, secondary school, proficiency program, or literacy program, saying: Do not leave your studies, but get married while you are studying so that you do not regret it when your youth has passed, O good young women! And do not sit in your parents' houses without husbands. To my friends, classmates, and sisters in all girls' schools in the Kingdom of Saudi Arabia, I send my greetings and salutations. I submit this message to the Grand Shaykh Abdulaziz, may Allah preserve him, so that he may supplement it with what he can. May Allah reward him with good.
Answer:
Yes, I support what the student girl mentioned, and I also support what her sister mentioned. There is no doubt that marriage is a required matter. It is incumbent upon young women, and it is also incumbent upon young men to hasten to it. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said:
Young man, those of you who can support a wife should marry, for it keeps you from looking at strange women and preserves you from immorality; but those who cannot should devote themselves to fasting, for it is a means of suppressing sexual desire.
يا معشر الشباب! من استطاع منكم الباءة فليتزوج؛ فإنه أغض للبصر، وأحصن للفرج، ومن لم يستطع فعليه بالصوم فإنه له وجاءPraise be to Allah, your sister, even though she has reached thirty, is still young and still a girl. I ask Allah to make it easy for her to find a righteous, good husband, and to reward her for her intention to seek knowledge and her diligence in seeking knowledge. I give her good news that Allah will make it easy for her to find among righteous men and good young men what will bring her good in this world and the Hereafter, if Allah wills.
However, I advise all young women to hasten to marriage. This does not prevent them from being in school. There is no harm in combining studies with marriage. Even if we assume that the husband does not want her to continue her studies, she can stop her studies, praise be to Allah. What she has gained of knowledge is sufficient for her. She is able to study and read in books of knowledge and benefit from them.
As for delaying marriage until the completion of university studies, this may lead to abandoning marriage and not getting married. So I advise all young women to hasten to marriage and not to delay it until the end of university studies, but rather to hasten. If it is facilitated for them to complete their studies with their husband, praise be to Allah. Otherwise, marriage takes precedence, even if she does not complete her studies. She can then read, benefit, and study. Perhaps she will get a righteous husband who is a university graduate or has a degree above university, and he will benefit her and be useful to her, and he will compensate for what was lacking.
So I repeat and repeat: I call upon young women to hasten to marriage. Likewise, I call upon young men to hasten to marriage, and not to postpone it until the end of university studies. For a person does not know how much of his life remains, nor does he know what will happen after that. So haste, haste to marriage is what is required.
The presenter: May Allah reward you with good, and benefit us through you.
Source
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