His family does not know Islam and his father insults the religion: should he cut ties with them?
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Fatwa number ( 10504 )
Q: I grew up in a family that was not Muslim in the true sense; my father does not pray, and neither does my mother. My father does not distinguish between the forbidden and the lawful; he has a sum of money on which he receives monthly interest, and we live from it. When I try to convince my father that something is forbidden, he curses Islam and what it brought, and he lies about the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) regarding any matter he does not like. I ask Allah for guidance for me and for him. When I became certain that I would not be able to influence
him, I began to keep silent and not speak to him about any matter concerning religion. However, my silence did not make him abandon riba (usury or interest) or stop cursing Islam and praising the Jews at the expense of the Muslims. I am now in a psychological struggle that I live through every day, and I am thinking of a way to get out of this crisis. I have tried to find some solutions; for instance, I tried to enroll in the Islamic University in al-Madinah al-Munawwarah, where I found it to be an opportunity to escape this environment. The result was that my application was rejected due to not meeting the conditions. As for now, I am confused about my situation: should I stay in my father's house, where my food is forbidden and my clothing is forbidden, until I finish my university studies, which I started this year? Or should I continue my university studies outside my father's house? I place my trust in Allah, strive for a lawful livelihood through halal work, and save myself from a forbidden bite and from falling into the abyss of undutifulness to parents, which I nearly fell into. I know that I am not righteous to the extent that pleases Allah (Mighty and Majestic), and if I were, I would not have come close to the abyss of undutifulness to parents. But I wish to be a righteous Muslim and strive for a correct Islamic life. I have hope that I can live this life outside my father's house. My question is: Am I on the right path if I take that step, or not? In other words: Will Allah grant me success in seeking a lawful livelihood if it is accompanied by my father's displeasure with me?
A : If the matter is as you described, continue to advise your father and cooperate with those who help you among relatives, friends, and neighbors to make an effort with him to improve his situation. If he improves, praise be to Allah; otherwise, seek help from Allah, avoid his forbidden earnings, earn for yourself, place your trust in Allah, treat him with kindness in this world, and follow the path of one who turns to Allah. This is not considered undutifulness to your father on your part. May Allah guide you and him to the straight path. And success is from Allah, and may Allah send prayers and blessings upon our Prophet Muhammad and his family and companions.
Q: I grew up in a family that was not Muslim in the true sense; my father does not pray, and neither does my mother. My father does not distinguish between the forbidden and the lawful; he has a sum of money on which he receives monthly interest, and we live from it. When I try to convince my father that something is forbidden, he curses Islam and what it brought, and he lies about the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) regarding any matter he does not like. I ask Allah for guidance for me and for him. When I became certain that I would not be able to influence
him, I began to keep silent and not speak to him about any matter concerning religion. However, my silence did not make him abandon riba (usury or interest) or stop cursing Islam and praising the Jews at the expense of the Muslims. I am now in a psychological struggle that I live through every day, and I am thinking of a way to get out of this crisis. I have tried to find some solutions; for instance, I tried to enroll in the Islamic University in al-Madinah al-Munawwarah, where I found it to be an opportunity to escape this environment. The result was that my application was rejected due to not meeting the conditions. As for now, I am confused about my situation: should I stay in my father's house, where my food is forbidden and my clothing is forbidden, until I finish my university studies, which I started this year? Or should I continue my university studies outside my father's house? I place my trust in Allah, strive for a lawful livelihood through halal work, and save myself from a forbidden bite and from falling into the abyss of undutifulness to parents, which I nearly fell into. I know that I am not righteous to the extent that pleases Allah (Mighty and Majestic), and if I were, I would not have come close to the abyss of undutifulness to parents. But I wish to be a righteous Muslim and strive for a correct Islamic life. I have hope that I can live this life outside my father's house. My question is: Am I on the right path if I take that step, or not? In other words: Will Allah grant me success in seeking a lawful livelihood if it is accompanied by my father's displeasure with me?
A : If the matter is as you described, continue to advise your father and cooperate with those who help you among relatives, friends, and neighbors to make an effort with him to improve his situation. If he improves, praise be to Allah; otherwise, seek help from Allah, avoid his forbidden earnings, earn for yourself, place your trust in Allah, treat him with kindness in this world, and follow the path of one who turns to Allah. This is not considered undutifulness to your father on your part. May Allah guide you and him to the straight path. And success is from Allah, and may Allah send prayers and blessings upon our Prophet Muhammad and his family and companions.
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