I am a young man, and my father and my brother covered the costs of my marriage. After the marriage, my wife’s family wanted me to live in a house far from my father, but I want to stay with my family so that I can
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The questioner : The questioner, Sayyid Muhammad, who resides in Jeddah, says in this question that he is a young man from the Arab Republic of Egypt and has a problem for which he wants to know the solution from your eminence, if Allah wills. He is a young man at the beginning of his life, and his father and brother covered the costs of his marriage. After the marriage, his wife’s family wanted him and his wife to live in a house far from his father. He wants to stay with his family so that he can care for his father, especially since his father is alone after his mother’s passing. Problems started between his wife and his father. After a period of less than a month, his wife went to her parents’ house. He went to bring her back after difficulty and insistence, but she insisted on staying at her parents’ house. He is currently in the Kingdom in Jeddah, and worries and problems have distressed him. In his message, he asks for a solution that you can consider: should he divorce her, be patient with her, or what should he do?
The Shaykh : Yes. What I see is that you should be patient with her and address her in the best manner, sometimes with encouragement and sometimes with warning, so that perhaps Allah will guide her. You must look at the strength of the relationship between you from one angle, and at the frequency and severity of the disputes between her and your family from another. You should compare the benefits and the harms and do what is best. If it is possible to send someone from her acquaintances to persuade her, and to persuade her parents as well, that is better. It is also obligatory for you to investigate the matter truthfully. If the fault lies with your family, keep her in a house by herself. If the fault lies with her, she must fear Allah (Mighty and Majestic) and fulfill the duty of her husband.
The questioner : May Allah reward you with good.
The Shaykh : Yes. What I see is that you should be patient with her and address her in the best manner, sometimes with encouragement and sometimes with warning, so that perhaps Allah will guide her. You must look at the strength of the relationship between you from one angle, and at the frequency and severity of the disputes between her and your family from another. You should compare the benefits and the harms and do what is best. If it is possible to send someone from her acquaintances to persuade her, and to persuade her parents as well, that is better. It is also obligatory for you to investigate the matter truthfully. If the fault lies with your family, keep her in a house by herself. If the fault lies with her, she must fear Allah (Mighty and Majestic) and fulfill the duty of her husband.
The questioner : May Allah reward you with good.