The ruling on a husband who does not treat his wife with kindness
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Q: I have been married for about 25 years, and I have many sons and daughters. I face many problems from my husband; he frequently humiliates me in front of my children and in front of near and far relatives. He never appreciates me without reason, and I do not feel at ease unless he leaves the house. I know that this man prays and fears Allah. I ask you to guide me to the right path. May Allah reward you with good.
A: It is obligatory for you to be patient and to advise him in the best manner, reminding him of Allah and the Last Day, so that perhaps he may respond and return to the truth and abandon his bad character. If he does not do so, the sin is upon him, and you have a great reward for your patience and for enduring his harm. It is prescribed for you to supplicate for him in your prayer and otherwise, asking Allah to guide him to the right, to grant him noble character, and to protect you from his evil and the evil of others.
You must also hold yourself accountable, be upright in your religion, and repent to Allah (Glorified and Exalted is He) for any bad deeds or mistakes you may have committed against Allah, against your husband, or against others. Perhaps he was sent to you because of sins you committed; for Allah (Glorified and Exalted is He) says: [Surat al-Shura: 30]. There is no harm in asking his father, mother, or older brothers, or any relatives or neighbors who can influence him, to advise him and guide him toward good treatment, in accordance with the saying of Allah (Glorified and Exalted is He): [Surat al-Nisa: 19], and His saying (peace and blessings be upon him) : [Surat al-Baqarah: 228].
May Allah improve your condition, guide your husband, and return him to the right path with goodness and guidance. Indeed, He is Generous and Bountiful.
A: It is obligatory for you to be patient and to advise him in the best manner, reminding him of Allah and the Last Day, so that perhaps he may respond and return to the truth and abandon his bad character. If he does not do so, the sin is upon him, and you have a great reward for your patience and for enduring his harm. It is prescribed for you to supplicate for him in your prayer and otherwise, asking Allah to guide him to the right, to grant him noble character, and to protect you from his evil and the evil of others.
You must also hold yourself accountable, be upright in your religion, and repent to Allah (Glorified and Exalted is He) for any bad deeds or mistakes you may have committed against Allah, against your husband, or against others. Perhaps he was sent to you because of sins you committed; for Allah (Glorified and Exalted is He) says:
And whatever strikes you of disaster - it is for what your hands have earned; but He pardons much.
وَمَا أَصَابَكُمْ مِنْ مُصِيبَةٍ فَبِمَا كَسَبَتْ أَيْدِيكُمْ وَيَعْفُو عَنْ كَثِيرٍAnd live with them in kindness
وَعَاشِرُوهُنَّ بِالْمَعْرُوفِAnd due to the wives is similar to what is expected of them, according to what is reasonable. But the men have a degree over them [in responsibility and authority].
وَلَهُنَّ مِثْلُ الَّذِي عَلَيْهِنَّ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ وَلِلرِّجَالِ عَلَيْهِنَّ دَرَجَةٌMay Allah improve your condition, guide your husband, and return him to the right path with goodness and guidance. Indeed, He is Generous and Bountiful.
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