Guidance for one who has two parents and a wife who does not treat them well
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Question:
After this, a message reached the program from Dhahran, signed by one of the brothers. The sender (E. A. H.) asks and says: I have been married for approximately fourteen years, and I have two sons and four daughters, and I praise and thank Allah for that. My father and mother live with us from time to time. They are advanced in age, unable to stay with us permanently, and unable to manage their own affairs. They do not find psychological comfort with my wife when they are at our home. I feel exhausted because I have endured a lot regarding my wife, hoping the situation would change, but to no avail. I know the extent of the impact that separation would have on the children. Guide us, may Allah reward you with good, for I am in a state of confusion regarding my matter.
Answer:
We advise you to be kind to your parents, even if it means taking a second wife who would be with them. If you are able, marry a second wife who would be with them in their home to serve them, and you will be in a good state. Do not hasten to divorce the mother of your children. You should advise her and guide her to good, and inform her that your parents have a great right over you, and that she will have a great reward if she is kind to them and helps you be dutiful to them. So do not hasten to divorce. Pray for her guidance, advise her, and say to her father, mother, or sisters: that they should advise her. Your parents should be tolerant with her and patient, because her remaining with her children may hold great good and benefit.
So the advice is not to hasten, but to advise her, recommend good to her, and be gentle with her. Likewise, your parents should bear with her to some extent and be patient with her to some extent. Her parents and relatives should advise her and guide her to good. If it becomes easy for you to have a second wife who is with your parents to serve them, and perhaps she will be better for them than this one, then that is good.
The presenter : May Allah reward you with good, and may He do you good.
After this, a message reached the program from Dhahran, signed by one of the brothers. The sender (E. A. H.) asks and says: I have been married for approximately fourteen years, and I have two sons and four daughters, and I praise and thank Allah for that. My father and mother live with us from time to time. They are advanced in age, unable to stay with us permanently, and unable to manage their own affairs. They do not find psychological comfort with my wife when they are at our home. I feel exhausted because I have endured a lot regarding my wife, hoping the situation would change, but to no avail. I know the extent of the impact that separation would have on the children. Guide us, may Allah reward you with good, for I am in a state of confusion regarding my matter.
Answer:
We advise you to be kind to your parents, even if it means taking a second wife who would be with them. If you are able, marry a second wife who would be with them in their home to serve them, and you will be in a good state. Do not hasten to divorce the mother of your children. You should advise her and guide her to good, and inform her that your parents have a great right over you, and that she will have a great reward if she is kind to them and helps you be dutiful to them. So do not hasten to divorce. Pray for her guidance, advise her, and say to her father, mother, or sisters: that they should advise her. Your parents should be tolerant with her and patient, because her remaining with her children may hold great good and benefit.
So the advice is not to hasten, but to advise her, recommend good to her, and be gentle with her. Likewise, your parents should bear with her to some extent and be patient with her to some extent. Her parents and relatives should advise her and guide her to good. If it becomes easy for you to have a second wife who is with your parents to serve them, and perhaps she will be better for them than this one, then that is good.
The presenter : May Allah reward you with good, and may He do you good.
Source
binbaz.org.sa
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