Ruling on a father taking his son's funds set aside for marriage
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A brother from the Arab Republic of Egypt sent a message. The sender is Abdulrahman Mubarak Salama. He has a set of questions. His first question is: Is it permissible for my father to take my marriage expenses from me, given that he is in a state of financial ease, while I am a simple employee with nothing but my salary?
Answer: He has no right to do so, and it is not permissible. This is based on the saying of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him):Sunan Ibn Majah 2340Da'if (Darussalam) Even if he were in need, he has no right to harm you. He must use other means, such as borrowing, trading, or other ways he is able to obtain money. As for harming you, he has no right to harm you. He may not take the money you are using to marry, or what you spend on your children or your wife. He has no right to do that. Rather, he must seek another source of income or another job.
So, the conclusion is that as long as he is in this state of financial ease, and praise be to Allah, he has no right to take the expenses you are setting aside for marriage, or for your needs and the needs of your family. Yes.
As for an extra amount, there is no harm if he takes from you an amount that is in excess, or if he asks you for it. There is no harm in giving him what he asks for. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said:Sunan Ibn Majah 2290Sahih (Darussalam) But he has no right to harm you. Yes.
The presenter: It seems to me that I understood from the question, Your Eminence the Shaykh, that the father wants to take the expenses he paid for his son's marriage, and the son is the questioner?
The Shaykh: What we understood from his words is that he set aside expenses to marry with, and his father wants to take these expenses, this money he set aside to marry with. His father wants to take it to benefit himself and prevent him from getting married. This is what we understood from his question.
The presenter: And if it is the second understanding?
The Shaykh: What is the second understanding?
The presenter: If the father paid the son's expenses for marriage, and then he wants the son to repay those expenses?
The Shaykh: This requires a detailed explanation. If the son is able to do so, it is his right to repay. But if the son is poor, his father has no right to this. Rather, his father must marry him off if his father is able to do so. Yes.
Answer: He has no right to do so, and it is not permissible. This is based on the saying of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him):
It was narrated from 'Ubadah bin Samit that the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) ruled: “There should be neither harming nor reciprocating harm.”
لا ضرر ولا ضرارSo, the conclusion is that as long as he is in this state of financial ease, and praise be to Allah, he has no right to take the expenses you are setting aside for marriage, or for your needs and the needs of your family. Yes.
As for an extra amount, there is no harm if he takes from you an amount that is in excess, or if he asks you for it. There is no harm in giving him what he asks for. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said:
The best of your provision is what you earn, and your children are part of what you earn.
إن أطيب ما أكلتم من كسبكم وإن أولادكم من كسبكمThe presenter: It seems to me that I understood from the question, Your Eminence the Shaykh, that the father wants to take the expenses he paid for his son's marriage, and the son is the questioner?
The Shaykh: What we understood from his words is that he set aside expenses to marry with, and his father wants to take these expenses, this money he set aside to marry with. His father wants to take it to benefit himself and prevent him from getting married. This is what we understood from his question.
The presenter: And if it is the second understanding?
The Shaykh: What is the second understanding?
The presenter: If the father paid the son's expenses for marriage, and then he wants the son to repay those expenses?
The Shaykh: This requires a detailed explanation. If the son is able to do so, it is his right to repay. But if the son is poor, his father has no right to this. Rather, his father must marry him off if his father is able to do so. Yes.
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