The wisdom behind the prohibition of marrying two sisters or other relatives simultaneously
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Marrying off sons
Question: I am a young man of twenty-three years old, and I am upright, praise be to Allah. My father is an old man, and due to family circumstances, he left the house and traveled abroad, leaving the family. He was always extremely harsh with me, and I never saw him show me any compassion, even though I am his only son. It was Allah’s will that I travel abroad and meet him, but he did not think about
helping me with marriage, despite the fact that he has money, while I have nothing but my salary, which covers the family’s expenses. On top of that, I borrow from people to cover those expenses that I have borne for him since he left. Does the Shari'ah obligate my father to pay for my marriage? And what should I do with him, as he is very stubborn to a great degree, doing only what he sees fit, despite the fact that he prays at night and performs all the rites of worship?But he says: I have learned, and he has no other obligations toward me. He knows full well that my salary does not match the family expenses he left behind. Is it obligatory for a father to marry off his son or not?
Answer: First: I advise you to be dutiful to your father and to treat him with kindness. Even if your father, as you mentioned, shows some harshness toward you, you must be patient, endure it, and treat him with kindness. Do not complain about any act of dutifulness you perform toward your father, for this is a righteous deed. A person is commanded to repel evil with good toward people, so how much more so toward a father, who is the closest person to him? I see no justification for your complaining about him or being annoyed with him. Rather, you should be patient and not reveal this to people. Allah, Mighty and Majestic, does not waste the reward of one who does good. And whatever dutifulness and kindness you show to your father, this is obligatory upon you.
As for the issue of whether it is obligatory for him to marry you off, this requires detail. A father must marry off his son if the son is poor, owns nothing, and is unable to marry, because this is part of financial support, and the financial support of a needy relative is obligatory upon his wealthy relative. This includes marrying him off and preserving his chastity.
However, if you are able to marry and able to earn, as you mentioned that you are educated, have a job, and have work, then your father is not obligated to marry you off. Rather, you marry from your earnings and your produce.
In any case: What I see is that you should rely on Allah, earn, and work.
The wisdom behind the prohibition of marrying two sisters or other relatives simultaneously
two sisters or other relatives
Question: What is the operative cause for the prohibition of marrying two sisters simultaneously, or a woman and her aunt or maternal aunt?
Answer: The operative cause, and Allah knows best, is preserving the right of kinship and maintaining family ties. Because marrying a close relative, such as an aunt or maternal aunt, along with her niece, or her nephew’s daughter, causes severance. This is due to the jealousy and rivalry between co-wives toward one another, and this causes the severing of family ties. For this reason, and Allah knows best, the Shari'ah prohibited marrying a woman and her aunt simultaneously, and prohibited marrying a woman and her maternal aunt simultaneously.
Question: I am a young man of twenty-three years old, and I am upright, praise be to Allah. My father is an old man, and due to family circumstances, he left the house and traveled abroad, leaving the family. He was always extremely harsh with me, and I never saw him show me any compassion, even though I am his only son. It was Allah’s will that I travel abroad and meet him, but he did not think about
helping me with marriage, despite the fact that he has money, while I have nothing but my salary, which covers the family’s expenses. On top of that, I borrow from people to cover those expenses that I have borne for him since he left. Does the Shari'ah obligate my father to pay for my marriage? And what should I do with him, as he is very stubborn to a great degree, doing only what he sees fit, despite the fact that he prays at night and performs all the rites of worship?But he says: I have learned, and he has no other obligations toward me. He knows full well that my salary does not match the family expenses he left behind. Is it obligatory for a father to marry off his son or not?
Answer: First: I advise you to be dutiful to your father and to treat him with kindness. Even if your father, as you mentioned, shows some harshness toward you, you must be patient, endure it, and treat him with kindness. Do not complain about any act of dutifulness you perform toward your father, for this is a righteous deed. A person is commanded to repel evil with good toward people, so how much more so toward a father, who is the closest person to him? I see no justification for your complaining about him or being annoyed with him. Rather, you should be patient and not reveal this to people. Allah, Mighty and Majestic, does not waste the reward of one who does good. And whatever dutifulness and kindness you show to your father, this is obligatory upon you.
As for the issue of whether it is obligatory for him to marry you off, this requires detail. A father must marry off his son if the son is poor, owns nothing, and is unable to marry, because this is part of financial support, and the financial support of a needy relative is obligatory upon his wealthy relative. This includes marrying him off and preserving his chastity.
However, if you are able to marry and able to earn, as you mentioned that you are educated, have a job, and have work, then your father is not obligated to marry you off. Rather, you marry from your earnings and your produce.
In any case: What I see is that you should rely on Allah, earn, and work.
The wisdom behind the prohibition of marrying two sisters or other relatives simultaneously
two sisters or other relatives
Question: What is the operative cause for the prohibition of marrying two sisters simultaneously, or a woman and her aunt or maternal aunt?
Answer: The operative cause, and Allah knows best, is preserving the right of kinship and maintaining family ties. Because marrying a close relative, such as an aunt or maternal aunt, along with her niece, or her nephew’s daughter, causes severance. This is due to the jealousy and rivalry between co-wives toward one another, and this causes the severing of family ties. For this reason, and Allah knows best, the Shari'ah prohibited marrying a woman and her aunt simultaneously, and prohibited marrying a woman and her maternal aunt simultaneously.