The Ruling on Obedience to Parents in Abandoning Good Company
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Question:
If my parents order me to abandon good company and righteous companions, and not to travel with them to perform 'Umrah, knowing that I am on the path to commitment, is it obligatory for me to obey them in this case?
Answer:
You are not required to obey them in what harms you. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said:Sunan Abi Dawud 2625Sahih (Al-Albani). So, do not obey the one who forbids you from the company of the righteous, whether he is your father or not, and do not obey him in the company of the wicked either.
But address them in the best manner, with kind words: "O my father, such and such," and "O my mother, such and such." These are good people, and I benefit from them and profit by them, my heart softens with them, and I learn knowledge and benefit. Respond to them with kind words, not with violence or harshness. If they prevent you, do not obey them, but do not inform them if they are harming you; do not inform them.
Pursue the righteous and travel with them, and do not inform them that you went with those if they are harming you. But do not obey them except in obedience to Allah in what is known to be good. If they order you to keep the company of the wicked, or order you to smoke, or to drink intoxicants, or to commit unlawful sexual intercourse, do not obey them. Do not obey them in disobedience to Allah ever, whether it is your father or anyone else, or a ruler or anyone else,Sunan Abi Dawud 2625Sahih (Al-Albani).
So, if your parents order you to do something that Allah does not approve of, do not obey them in disobedience to Allah, but address them in the best manner. Allah said regarding the disbelievers: [Luqman: 15]. You say: "O my father, may Allah guide you, may Allah grant you success, I am such and such, and I benefit from these people. O my mother, such and such." Address them in the best manner, with kind words and good conduct.
If my parents order me to abandon good company and righteous companions, and not to travel with them to perform 'Umrah, knowing that I am on the path to commitment, is it obligatory for me to obey them in this case?
Answer:
You are not required to obey them in what harms you. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said:
Obedience is in matters which are good and universally recognized.
إنما الطاعة في المعروفBut address them in the best manner, with kind words: "O my father, such and such," and "O my mother, such and such." These are good people, and I benefit from them and profit by them, my heart softens with them, and I learn knowledge and benefit. Respond to them with kind words, not with violence or harshness. If they prevent you, do not obey them, but do not inform them if they are harming you; do not inform them.
Pursue the righteous and travel with them, and do not inform them that you went with those if they are harming you. But do not obey them except in obedience to Allah in what is known to be good. If they order you to keep the company of the wicked, or order you to smoke, or to drink intoxicants, or to commit unlawful sexual intercourse, do not obey them. Do not obey them in disobedience to Allah ever, whether it is your father or anyone else, or a ruler or anyone else,
Obedience is in matters which are good and universally recognized.
إنما الطاعة في المعروفSo, if your parents order you to do something that Allah does not approve of, do not obey them in disobedience to Allah, but address them in the best manner. Allah said regarding the disbelievers:
but accompany them in [this] world with appropriate kindness
وَصَاحِبْهُمَا فِي الدُّنْيَا مَعْرُوفًا
Source
binbaz.org.sa
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